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Putting up a brave front is not a bad thing after all 

A lot of times in life, we are required to put on a smile no matter what happened, and to live on life as if its a bed of roses. Its not escaping reality, its not being fake. Its just that seeming happy has more benefits than showing out the sadness. 

1. Looking happy attracts happy ppl

Nobody likes being around emo people, and isolating urself away from the group doesn't make things easier for u too. Why not just put on a fake smile, and attract those with real smile and get infected by them? Happiness is contagious. Being around happy people long enough will make u genuinely happy too. So what if u had a fake smile at the start, so what if this happiness is temporary, and will vanish into thin air once u left the group. Its still better than nothing. No one stays happy forever, constantly. The goal is to be happy as often as you can. 

2. U can avoid questions that u urself don't want to face. 

Its not escaping reality, its taking a step back, and face it when u are strong enough. If there's something u can do about it now, I'm sure it would already have been done. Since there is nothing to do about it, why not put it at the back of ur mind, and put on that smile to strive for as many happy hours as possible? 

 The reality we feel is determine solely by our brain, and the key is to control the brain to do the right things at the right time. Being about to flash a smile whenever needed in which ever deep shit u are in is a quality too, and its not an easy quality to obtain, which is why it will be valuable. 

"If you lie to yourself long enough, you can even fool yourself."

Ytd, we had a dinner at one of the tzd char. We ordered 3 dishes, clay pot fish head, 3 cup chicken and toufu. The place was quite empty, hence we tot that it will be a fast meal, turns out we were so wrong. We waited an hour plus, and all they served was the claypot. We waited and waited, watching the orders of those that arrived later than us being served, that was when my mum was so pissed off that she decided that we shld just leave. My mum feels that its not fair and right that we had to wait so long when we ordered so much earlier than the rest, and she was damn pissed. All along, I was still in pretty okay temper.
Yes, I don't get angry easily, and I sometimes get pushed around, but does that make me a weak guy? I avoid confrontation, but it doesn't mean I won't fight for what I think is mine. I just choose the battle carefully that's all. There are things worth fighting for, there are principles worth protecting, but this isn't one of them. Why shld I let myself be angry at such petty things? Its a waste of my time and effort. So what if our food arrived late, I'm a patient man. And if life want to fault me for this, screw life. I will live how ever I deemed is right, and reality doesn't tell me how to live it.

Why good guys finish last:

Its in human's nature to maximise profit, minimise loss, and its no different in a human interaction relationship. Being a good guy, the girl knows that u will 'always be ard', she knows that u will 'be the one there for her when she need someone', but when she doesn't, she don't have to put in effort to maintain the relationship, which is why she will not commit herself to the friendship. What ppl say about friends being stars, not always visible but always there is bullshit. That's just an excuse for ppl not to spend time maintaining relationships, and expect their 'close friends ' to be there for them when they need it. True friends are those that make the effort to spend time with each other, talk to each other constantly, let them know what's going on in their lives. In the case of a bgr, Because they will never lose the good guys, they can afford to neglect them, spend less time with them or even no time at all. They can use the guys as backup plan, while thwy search for someone better. In the case when they csnt find any one, they still have a back up.Perhaps its not good being that guy who will always be there after all.
I refused to be the back up, or even one of the options of someone. I want to be the only one of someone. Instead of being somebody to everybody, be the everyone of someone.

First entry of the year.

I'm really bitter and sad with that photo, but not at u, cos its not ur fault. I believe strongly in fate, which is why I'm so sad at it. Its like fate's telling me that the start of the year marks the start of the day I'm no longer that important in ur life, that u don't need me anymore, that although I'm ard, I'm no longer part of ur life. I was there at the party, doing the same part time as u, my intention was to spend the new year with u, but fate doesn't want that to happen. It doesn't even want my presence to be documented in ur photo memories. Hahaha. So nice of fate. And that leads to my first resolution; accept. I have to accept that fact, the way things are, things that I can't change. I have to forget how close we were last time, how we can just talk on forever. I'm am deluded into thinking that I am in the first place chasing u, but there isn't any race at all. I'm just the one that comes along into ur life to set things right, and leave once everything is right. 

The new year marks the start of my departure. A lot of things has changed and will change, but some things won't, like the fact that I will always be ard when ur life needs straightening, I will always love u more than anyone, just like how u love ur first ex more than anyone.

你知道什么比一厢情愿更痛吗? 是当你把一厢情愿错认为两情相愿的爱